How relationships work

How relationships work

Saturday, 23 July 2011

5 Tips on what not to do on your first date

We have often read many dating tips on where to go on a first date and how to make your first date special, but this time I have put together a guide that will explain what you must not do on your first date. If you pay attention to all the little details you can end up making your first date very special and memorable.

1.       For most guys as they hear the word ‘date’, the first thing that pops up in their mind is physical intimacy. Any guy who is just looking for reasons to hold hands or touch her is actually disrespecting the girl. So all you guys out there go with the flow and see if the girl is any bit interested before jumping on to the ‘main part’ of the date.

2.       Girls love discussing things, gossiping and chatting. This is only good as far as you don’t bore your partner. Talking too much about your past relationships or bitching about the girls around you might bore your guy to death. Avoid talking about your ex and concentrate on the current guy; also avoid bitching about other girls and concentrate on your own date instead.

3.       Guys like showing off their sense of humour by cracking jokes thinking the girl likes it. Here it is important to note and sense what the girl is feeling. Going overboard with your jokes or cracking those poor jokes will definitely turn off the girl. Another thing to note here is never make girls the butt of your jokes; after all you too are dating a girl! Stop showing your pride in being a guy as the girl will walk away and never come back.

4.       All you girls out there avoid being overtly conscious and checking repeatedly how you are looking as this might turn the guy off. Be confident of who you are and how you are carrying yourself. Be comfortable in what you are wearing and carry it off with style and the right amount of attitude.

5.       Being courteous and respecting a woman are the true qualities of a man. So guys keep your manners in check and behave well in front of the girl you’re dating to avoid turning her off. Show off your gentlemen skills to maintain her interest in you.

Tuesday, 19 July 2011

Qualities of a good friend

In today’s fast paced world where relationships are losing their importance and life is becoming increasingly mechanical, it is very difficult to find people who are real and genuine. ‘Good friends’ is a term long forgotten and making such friends is turning in to only a dream. There are very few people who can count their ‘real’ friends; friends who are true and good. In such a world where it is becoming difficult to find a good friend, people are also losing the eye for detail. It is becoming more and more difficult to identify who is a good friend and who is not. For this purpose I bring you a small guide that includes all the qualities of a good friend.

·         A good friend accepts you the way you are: This is one thing that is the main distinguishing point between a usual friend and a good friend. A good friend will accept the way you are and will never want you to change. At the end what matters to him/her is you as a person.

·         A good friend is honest and sincere: A good friend will always say what he/she believes in. they will be honest to you no matter what. A friend who is honest and is sincere in maintaining the friendship is definitely a good friend.

·         A good friend will do what is good for you: A good friend will not necessarily say all the good things to you and be overtly nice. He/she will say and do what is right and beneficial for you. They will think about your welfare.

·         A good friend always supports: Support is one thing that you can always expect from a good friend. Regardless of who supports you and who doesn’t, a good friend will always support in what you believe in and will be by your side forever.

·         A good friend is selfless: He/she will never keep a count on what all good things he/she did and how many acts of welfare are pending from your side. A good friend does good things selflessly and is not obsessed with his/her own benefit. He/she does all the good things and forgets because that is what they think is friendship all about.

·         A good friend is happy when you are happy and sad when you are sad: A good friend relates to you and feels for you. When you are happy he/she will double your happiness by being equally happy and when you are sad they will divide your sadness by being there for you and letting you share things with them.

So if you have a friend who has all of these qualities in him/her, treasure them. Such friends indeed are rare to get.

Tuesday, 5 July 2011

5 tips on how to be friends with ex

Being friends with your ex is not an easy job. Your break up with your ex happened due to lack of compatibility and understanding; now being in a cordial relationship with the same person is definitely a tough job. No break up happens very smoothly with any disagreements. Disputes and arguments are bound to happen when you’re breaking up. But it is also very essential that you stay on cordial terms with your ex as you might cross paths in life later, or could be friends to retain the sweetness in the relationship without any awkwardness. What if your ex works in the same company where you do? Then it is all the more important to be on good terms with your ex.
You might be wondering how it is possible. For this few tips have been given below.
1.       Being friends with your ex would mean a cordial and easy break up. If you have gone through such a break up, well and fine, but in case you’ve argued and ended the relationship on not a very good note, it would mean you better patch up soon. For a patch up you must apologise for the mess that was created during your break up with him/her.
2.       Apologising would mean giving adequate reasons and explanations and then giving time for your ex to think over it. Don’t be impatient.
3.       When you are trying to be cordial again with your ex, state your intention clearly. Tell him/her that you feel sorry for the mess and just want to have a cordial relationship so that there is harmony between both of you. In such a way your ex would understand the real reason behind the patch up. In case you’re in the same office just explain that you would not want you and his/her professional lives to get affected hence it is needed that you both enter a cordial relationship and forget what happened in the past.
4.       It is very important to make it very clear to your ex that you are not going to flirt with him/her again and just want to be friends with no romantic involvement.
5.       For best results frank, open and simple approach would be sufficient to build a cordial relationship with your ex. Don’t be too fancy in your approach or try beating behind the bush or flattering your ex too much. Be clear and straight forward.
The way you approach or deal with your ex matters a lot as it determines how cordial your relationship is going to be.

Saturday, 2 July 2011

What guys check out in a girl first?

Just as men think its difficult to understand women, girls too wish to know what kind of women men get attracted to. If you are curious to know the same and have been wondering about the same from quite sometime now, here are the list of things that men check out in a girl-

Off course her assets!

Men will be men. Let’s accept that this is the first thing all guys notice in a girl. They might do it tactfully so that the girl doesn’t come to know or do it unabashedly; but they do notice!

Her long flowing cascades…

Hair is one of the things that attract guys. Most guys are fond of long beautiful hair. A girl with such hair will never go unnoticed by any guy (forget hair, no girl goes unnoticed by guys!).


This is something guys easily make out. They can easily sense if the girl is uncomfortable in what she is wearing or carrying. So a confident girl with the right amount of attitude and style WILL have many eyes checking her out.

What she wears

Yes, girls notice other girls’ outfits and measure each other’s fashion quotient. Guys see it the other way. They notice what a girl wears and make an opinion of her. What she wears and how she carries herself ARE noticed by guys (whether they admit or not!).

Sense of humour!

A girl with a great sense of humour is an eye candy for most guys. They just love to crack up on her jokes as this makes them enjoy her company to the fullest. They assume that a girl with a good sense of humour has a lighter and chilled out attitude towards life and that she is not among the panicky girls.

These are the things that guys notice and get attracted to in a girl when they meet her for the first time.

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