How relationships work

How relationships work

Thursday, 23 June 2011

Kinds of men, women get most attracted to!

The guys are considered to be ones who easily for fall for any woman, but did you know that there are certain kinds of men, women get easily attracted to? If not then look below for the guide that tells you about the men, women fall for most easily!
1.       The Romantic guy: He is the kind of man every woman wants to be with! Women loved to be pampered and told that how beautiful/nice/lovely they are! Surprises are one thing that wins away their hearts. The romantic guy is the one who surprises his girl not only with flowers and gifts but also walks hand in hand even on the busiest of streets. He is the one who gives soft kisses over the forehead and looks lovingly into her eyes. This is the kind of man any woman would fall for!
2.       The Super-confident guy: The super confident guys are the ones who carry themselves confidently and hardly care about what other men are doing. He is confident in himself and doesn’t hang his tongue out for every other girl. There is something mysteriously sexy about them that attracts women and drives them crazy! They are sometimes misunderstood as the arrogant ones, but being in relationship with these guys is definitely one cake walk!
3.       The Artistic guy: The artistic guy is the creative one. He sings/paints or plays an instrument to her girl’s delight. He loves doing creative things and thinks ‘out of the box’, a quality every girl would fall for! When he plans surprises they are the ‘real’ surprises that will sweep women off their feet!
4.       The Funny guy: Who doesn’t like to laugh and women are no different. The funny guy is the one who will laugh and make you laugh. Life seems to be a joy ride with this kind of men. Women most easily fall for these men as they connect instantly with women and are not only great friends but ardent lovers too!
5.       The gentleman-like mature guy: These kinds of men are every woman’s dream man. Any girl would want to settle for the mature gentleman-like guy. He is the one who is responsible, mature, well-settled and handles the relationship maturely. He is the perfect husband material and women eventually would like to settle down with him.

Thursday, 16 June 2011

5 Kinds of women men get most attracted to!

It is a well-known fact that men seem to get easily attracted by women but do you know that there are certain kind of women men cannot resist at all? Yes you read that right! The 5 irresistible kinds of women for men are given below.
1.       The kitchen master- A famous adage says, ‘The shortest way to man’s heart is through his stomach”. This is true. Men adore those women who are cooking champions. The best way to impress a man is through a delicious meal. These are the kinds of women men cannot resist at all and are bound to fall for.
2.       Just like his Momma- Every man’s perfect woman is his mother. The girl, a guy would like to settle with must have a reflection of his mother. The caring and affectionate woman, in whom a man sees his mother, is the perfect one for him and nothing would ever do her apart from him.
3.       Finance manager- Men mostly are careless when it comes to saving money. They seldom think about the future and believe in living life today to the fullest. This keeps them from saving money. A woman who looks after a man’s savings and spends money wisely is most adored by men. As most men consider women to be spendthrifts and shopaholics who burn men’s pocket and shell out their money; a woman who believes in saving money will be greatly adored by men.
4.       The best buddy- Men always complain of women not giving them enough space. A woman who is a man’s best buddy and understands him very well giving him the space he wants is definitely the one a man would love dating.
5.       The ‘smilester’- Women who are bitching about other women, crying, fretting and whining are the last kinds of women a man would want to date. Any woman who loves to laugh and live life cheerfully is the one a man would never be able to resist. The fun loving girl who believes in living life to the fullest and seldom sheds a tear is a man’s dream girl.

Wednesday, 15 June 2011

4 reasons why father-daughter relationship is so important

Father-daughter relationship is one of the strongest relationships of all. It has been truly said that most daughters are Daddy’s girl and the sons are Mama’s boy.
The main reason why daughters are so emotionally attached to their fathers is that they see a perfect and complete man in their fathers. Every girl dreams of marrying a boy who has her father’s reflection in him. For every daughter her father is the perfect man and she wishes that he becomes her great friend too.
The 4 reasons why the father-daughter relationship is so important are given below.
1.       Every girl needs to have a father figure in her life. A father makes her strong enough to face all difficulties in life. He teaches that life is not a bed of roses and facing the difficulties gives you strength to face the even more difficult ones. It is important to have the courage to fight back when life puts you down.
2.       Fathers teach daughters how to be grounded and keep your head on your shoulders. This gives a person the ability to take the important decisions of life efficiently.
3.       Fathers are the ones who teach their daughters how to be practical. If decisions are taken alone by heart then there is no surety that they will be correct. It is important to think practically in life and not get swayed away by emotions.
4.       Fathers make daughters ready to take on responsibilities. They set that perfect example by handling the responsibilities of family efficiently.
Every father is a pillar of strength and support for the daughter. He is the one who gives her those important lessons of life that will guide her through happy and rough times in life. Hence the father-daughter relationship is one of the most beautiful and a very important one amongst all.

Tuesday, 14 June 2011

Tackling teenagers’ drinking habits

Teenage is that phase in a person’s life when he/she is neither a child nor an adult. This is a developing period, when a child develops both mentally and physically and moves towards becoming an adult. As they undergo a major change in the way they think and act, this age brings in all the confusion of what is right and what is wrong. They undergo a lot of peer pressure and follow what is considered ‘cool’. Here starts their experimentations and trials. They try doing what they think adults do. This includes smoking and drinking. The real problem comes when they don’t draw a line and end up drinking like a fish.
Parents play a very crucial role in how they shape up their child’s thinking. Since the beginning if the parents don’t pay enough attention to their child, he/she could end up becoming an alcoholic. It is important for parents to discuss the harmful effects of drinking. It’s also very important to let them know that why drinking is not ‘cool’ and what the other teenagers are doing totally unjustified.
Topics such as these have to be discussed from a young age. Parents need to make their child understand what is morally and ethically correct and what’s not. You cannot just force your opinion. There has to be a valid reason why the parents feel so. Giving examples validates your opinion and lets the child also believe the same.
If you are not sure what to say where such a matter is concerned, then you must tell them that these things must be left for later years. The minimum threshold of deciding whether drinking occasionally is fair or not must be left to the time when he/she starts working. All their childhood and teenage must go off with the firm belief that drinking is unhealthy. Now how effectively parents communicate this depends on them.
Another thing that must be kept in mind is that if any of the parents themselves drink occasionally, they must never do it in front of the child otherwise all the teachings will go waste. The child will see you drinking and feel if the parent can so can I.
Always remember, making your child understand the harmful effects of drinking must be handled tactfully so that your child learns from what you teach him/her and remembers it throughout his/her teenage.

Saturday, 11 June 2011

5 Tips to stop your child from becoming a bully

There are many children who bully others at school and it is always good to counsel your children and advise them on tips to deal with bullies. What if your child is among the bullies or the leader of the bullies group? This is something to get worried about as your child might be harming many children at school with their bossy attitude and troublesome behaviour. If your child is becoming a bully you need to pay attention to him/her.
It is always better never to let any such condition come under which your child undergoes major behavioural changes and turns into a bully. The situations that lead a child into becoming a bully in most cases develop at home. For this 5 important tips are given below.
1.       Never be overtly strict with your child- This is something that must be kept in mind by you always. If you scold your child too much or reprimand him for every small little mistake he/she makes, this will build up feelings of revenge and make him irritable in nature. Here he/she knows very well that they cannot vent their feelings in front of you as they would in turn be scolded. These feelings come out at school with other children. They start dominating, harassing and bullying other children in order to show they are superior and do what they want. This is basically an outpour of all the emotions hidden in them that build up over a long period of time due to your scolding him/her at petty issues.
2.       Share things with your child- Every parent must befriend their child and let him/her outpour their feelings and ideas or thoughts. In small little discussions involve your child and let him speak. Respect his/her opinion and show your acknowledgement towards it. In such a way you will indirectly teach him to respect others opinions and views and will in turn prohibit all tendencies of becoming a bully.
3.       If you notice the signs, talk to the child- If you notice that your child bullies children, never let it go off. Speak to your child and find out why he does it. Tell him/her why bullying is unhealthy. Give practical examples in everything you say so that the child relates to what you are saying and believes in your views.
4.       Keep fights and arguments with your spouse confined to your bedroom- Every relationship faces times when disputes and fights take place. Keep these fights confined to your room where you can discuss matters and sort out things. Never fight in front of your child. He/she will learn from it and try it out at school. This is the first step towards becoming a bully.
5.       If needed take your child to a counsellor- If things are getting out of hand and you are not able to handle it yourself seek an expert’s advice. The counsellor is a professional and knows exactly how to deal with such issues. There is no harm in taking a professional’s advice or help. This doesn’t mean your child is ill. He/she just probably needs some guidance.
Take help of these tips to stop your child from becoming a bully and make him/her a polite and well-mannered individual.

Wednesday, 8 June 2011

How to fall in love

Falling in love is something that cannot be planned. You never know when you can fall in love. This feeling indeed is the most beautiful feeling in the world. If you are among those who haven’t been struck by the cupid’s arrow here is the chance to find your beloved.

A few tips can help you fall in love and find your Mr./Ms. Right. They are given below.
Know your choice- Before you begin one thing that you must be sure of is what kind of person you would want to date. This is the most important of all things. You must have a clear image of the person you would like to fall in love with. Set realistic image. Don’t expect a fairy to descend from heaven just for you or prince charming riding on a white horse comes and sweeps you off your feet. Don’t be too rigid too. You must not set impossible expectations/rules/image to achieve.
Start socializing- Now as you have decided and prepared yourself mentally to fall in love, it’s time to find him/her. Now you obviously won’t be roaming around with a signboard in your hand reading “I want a lover”. So start socialising. Attending parties, get-togethers and clubbing will help you find your special someone. Interaction with more and more people will help you achieve your motive.
Be patient- Now that you have started your search, be patient. Remember, Rome was not built in a day. Similarly it is not possible that you will find your special one overnight. Give yourself time. Don’t be desperate and jump on to any girl/guy to make him your date. Give time to the relationship and start with becoming friends. Who knows things may soon turn out to be the way you wanted them to be!
Don’t be too choosy, nobody is perfect- Now this is something you’ve got to keep in mind. Don’t be too rigid with the image you made for your beloved. Nobody is perfect in this world. Be flexible. Accept the virtues and vices in the person you are falling for. If he/she does not perfectly fit into the image but you find him/her too sweet to be avoided then go with the flow. At the end what matters is the heart. If the person is sweet and you gel well with him/her that serves the purpose!
So if you still haven’t been struck by the cupid’s arrow, start your hunt today to find your special one and feel the magic of love.

Friday, 3 June 2011

How essential is premarital counselling?

Premarital counselling is a way to get advice by an expert on matters related to married life that a couple would want to discuss or know about. More and more couples these days are opting for premarital counselling sessions to prepare themselves well before entering a married life. Now this doesn’t mean in any way that they aren’t compatible with each other; it just means they are getting help to make their married life even sweeter.

Premarital counselling these days is such a common act that it is considered as important as making arrangements for the wedding ceremony. Such a session develops more possibilities for the couple to lead a happy married life. The two people sit together to understand each other and resolve issues if any and become ready to enjoy both sweet and sour moments of life together.

Issues such as getting to know each other and their families, family planning, managing finances and all the other matters related to marriage are discussed in a premarital counselling sessions. Here couples decide and discuss every possible matter related to marriage so that misunderstandings do not become an obstacle in their happy and peaceful married life.

The expert makes the couple understand the importance of cooperation, communication, trust, honesty and love in a marriage. This helps them understand each other and know how beautiful the institution of marriage is. Matters concerning physical intimacy are also discussed by the couples with the expert. Having a frank and candid conversation is aimed at, in a premarital counselling session. This makes things transparent between the couple and helps the expert discuss things freely and openly.

The expert also addresses in-laws issues and conflicts resolution issues, so that if any of such matters arises after their marriage the couple deals with it together in an effective manner. The advantages of attending a premarital counselling are several and opting for one before getting married is wisest of all decisions.

Choosing a premarital counsellor is a very crucial job that must be done after thorough research work. Go for the one who’s most reputed after consulting friends, families and conducting a research yourself too. The effectiveness of your counselling depends heavily on how well the counsellor does his/her job. Hence the counsellor must be a renowned expert.

So, if you or any of your acquaintances are about to get married, taking help of a premarital counsellor is advised to enjoy the sweet taste of marriage for years to come.

Thursday, 2 June 2011

How to make a great first impression

The very first time when you meet up a person think of the things you notice first in him/her. These are the things that determine your first impression on the other person.
The first impression that you make on a person is very important as it is the basis on which the other person judges on what kind of a person you are. The way you’ve left your first impression becomes even more important if you are on a date or meeting a guy/girl for the first time.

There are a few important things you must remember in order to leave a great first impression!

The very first thing that you must keep in mind is your eye contact. If you do not maintain a good eye contact with the guy/girl you are dating, it means you are hiding something or you might be lying about something. Maintaining a continuous eye contact means you are confident as a person and there is no sign of hesitation or nervousness.

Another thing that is to be kept in mind is your dress/outfit. Be confident about yourself. This is extremely important if you are on a date. To be super confident about yourself you must dress up comfortably. Wear something that you are confident about. Carry it with grace and poise.

Next is your posture. When you are standing with your date, walking or sitting be comfortable and feel tall. If you feel tall, your body language will be confident and your posture will be erect. If you are a guy it is even more important to have a good body posture while sitting or standing. If you hunch or do not sit or stand straight, you will leave a bad impression on the girl you’re dating. You will seem to be a lazy, carefree person not serious about anything in life. So it is very important to have a good body posture.

Another thing that’s extremely important is your words. The way you speak and the words you say are the biggest contributors of your first impression on your date. Think before you speak is what you must remember here. Nobody likes to date a blabber-mouthed person. You must think well before you utter any word. You must make sense, be reasonable in your behavior and must not offend the other person by the words you speak. Tone of your voice is also very important, so watch it.

So keep these simple yet very important points in mind to leave a great first impression on your date.

Wednesday, 1 June 2011

How to get back with your ex-boyfriend

Do the beautiful memories of the days spent with your ex-boyfriend make you cry inconsolably? Have you just not been able to concentrate anywhere and keep thinking about him all the time? Do you regret the decision of breaking up with your boyfriend? If the answers to even anyone of the questions stated above is a yes, you need to get back with your ex-boyfriend now! Yes you heard that right! Everyone makes mistakes and breaking up with your boyfriend is a part of those mistakes. So stop sulking and get ready to patch up with your ex!
Now the big question that arises here is HOW? Yes here is the answer to the question.
The first rule of getting back with your ex-boyfriend is not to chase him but slowly make your way into his heart forever. If you chase him or show your desperateness to get back with him, he will run away from you. Nobody likes to be chased all the time. So as you plan to get back with him, give him a call. If you feel hesitant in calling him up straight away, text him a simple message expressing your desire to talk to him. If he responds, great but if he doesn’t, wait for a day or two and give him a call. Remember your each step should have a few days’ gap in between so that it doesn’t seem that you are desperate to get back with your boyfriend.
As he agrees to meet you, meet at a calm place where there is not much of a crowd as you would want to talk peacefully with him. On meeting him, tell him how you’ve been thinking about the day you broke up. Tell him that you feel really sorry about the whole episode. Tell him that you believe it wasn’t his fault completely and you had been quite unfair in dealing with him the same day. Tell him how bad you feel for the harsh words you uttered for him and that they must have hurt him badly. Apologise for the incident, also remember not to start begging for mercy. Just say what is required and never be too clingy.
Now tell him that you would want to forget everything and want him too to try forgetting whatever happened. Ask him for his opinion on the matter. It should be a two way conversation so don’t do all the talking and let him speak his heart out. Encourage him to speak what he feels. Empathise with him and show your concern for his feelings. When you feel he has spoken his true feelings, tell him your desire to start afresh with a cordial relationship of friendship. Don’t jump on to love! Start with friendship. He won’t deny your offer. Tell him to think about it and it is not necessary for him to answer at that moment itself. Give some time to him. He will be pleasantly surprised with the space you are giving him and not being too pushy.
As he agrees for a friendly relationship, promise to yourself not to repeat the same old mistakes you made last time. Never nag him. Be his good friend. Don’t preach him all the time. Give him his required space. Never show your insecurity or an irritated behaviour when he talks to a girl. If he is not in a mood to meet or talk someday, let him have his way. Show your changed behaviour. After all, he also deserves his required space and freedom just as you do.
When you start feeling that quite a lot of days have passed by and he has become a great friend of yours and started being very comfortable and happy with you, show your love to him subtly. He will catch your signs. Flirt with him a little and he will know what you feel for him. As and when he starts reciprocating the same feelings and flirts back with you, after a few days sit with him and let him know that you would like to date him again and give your relationship a second chance. Show your feelings strongly and give him time to think about it. Tell him to take his own sweet time before he lets you know. Have patience; he will get back with you.
If you follow all the steps correctly, who knows, he may be the one to ask you to date him again! So start following the above given steps and get back with your ex-boyfriend in no time!

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